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Do your words cause you grief? Small shifts can make a huge impact.

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Do your words cause you grief? Small shifts can make a huge impact.


“Look out! Glass!” shouted my husband, Rett, while, he,

our son Cooper, and I were riding bikes the other day. We couldn’t avoid the glass. Each of us swerved off the path but nonetheless, ended up riding through a bit of it. As we cleared the glass break from the path, Rett said, “I bet you one of us is going to get a flat tire.”

Pop! Flap, flap, flap- that was it; the tell-tale sign that one of us had a flat tire. Guess who …. You’re absolutely right; Rett!
We stopped riding and looked at the plethora of sandspurs that were in his tire. Amazing, I know; sand spurs? Yes, here along the Grand Strand, those things are killers for your bike tires. We’ve all fallen victim to them. On one ride I was actually taking a moment’s break and heard the tire hissing- only to find the supersized sandspur sticking out of my tire.
This time was different though. Cooper, Rett, and I looked at each other. The moment was a bit eerie. He just said one of us would get a flat and one of us did. Not from the glass mind you, but from sand spurs. Was this coincidence or spoken words coming true?
I’m a huge believer that what you speak you seek. For example, if you constantly say things like, “This is so hard.” “I don’t feel good.” “I can’t do this.”… you get the pattern. Weeeelllll…. things WILL be hard. You WON’T feel good, and you WON’T be able to do what you want.
I know when I say things that are negative like, “I’m so fat. I can’t ever stick to a diet.” Or “I can’t get out of debt,” I set myself up for hard times filled with sadness and frustration.
On the other hand, when I say, “I love my husband.” Or “I am thankful I have a job.” I find my life begins to fill with better emotion and things seem to become easier.
Believe me, I don’t live in a dream world where I’m a size 8, with billions in the bank, married to the perfect man, in a job I’d do for free (not yet on the job- but working on that one 😉 ). Nope; I live a normal life in my size 10 jeans (which I am ecstatic to be in); with more college and home improvement debt than I like to admit; I’m married to a regular guy and I’m in a job I like- but would not do for free. However, MY real life- the one I am creating daily- is radically different from the lives of so many people I know. Unlike lots of my peers, I feel happy! I wake up glad to be me …. and I love my family.
Please note I’m not a drastic talker. I simply learned to take my negatives and give them just a little tilt. For example, “I don’t even know where to start in this filthy den” can be turned into “I’ll pick up the stuff on the floor today.” When I reframe my thought, I open myself up to a completion. After I clear the floor, I have choices. I can quit because I’ve completed what I said I’d do [and that FEELS awesome!]; or I can choose to do one more task. Over time, that filthy den starts looking and feeling better to me and my “negative” begins to shift …. just because I tilted my words.

So what about YOUR spoken words? What kind of life are they leading you to live?
Consider this: take one of your “negatives” and tilt it just a little toward the positive. For example, “This house/apartment stinks” could be turned just a little to sound like this: “I’m glad I have a roof over my head” or “I like that little shelf.”
Once you clean up the way you speak about your present circumstance, you’ll begin to see opportunities for change. Helplessness and hopelessness begin to take a smaller seat in the rear, while solutions and possibilities will begin to rise to the front and expand. Everything starts in your mind. Speak what you seek!
Again, what are you saying? How can you tilt it, just a little, to change your circumstance or, at least, to change your perspective? Click the comment button and share your experience.

| positive thoughts, possibilities, solutions, speak what you seek | November 06, 2010

About the author

Wynn Godbold is an inspired educator who stretches herself and those around her to new heights. Her work as a speaker, trainer, and administrative coach carries her across the United States where she spreads her message of inspiring teachers to reach children with authenticity, joy, and success. Her teacher retreats are known to empower teachers to love their lives. Teachers world-wide experience personal growth through the products and packages she offers on line. In June of 2012, Wynn kick started the International Academy of Bee Sharp Teachers. Wynn is Nationally Board Certified in Reading and the Language Arts. She has certifications in Education Administration, Elementary and Early Childhood Education. In addition to running Bee Sharp, she consults for the McGraw Hill Education Group and serves on the Educational Team at Page Turner Adventures. Wynn lives in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina with her husband, two sons, and the family dog, JR.

6 Responses to "Do your words cause you grief? Small shifts can make a huge impact."
  • Glad November 7, 2010

    I love your "what you speak, you seek" reminder.

    I also try to find the good in every situation.

    I used to tell my kids, "A vulture looks for dead things in the desert and finds them. A hummingbird looks for flowers, and finds them. You find what you look for."

    Wise words.

  • Clara November 8, 2010

    Wynn and Glad, you are wise women!

    And I'm totally with you on this one. I've always felt you have to be careful what you think and speak because you'll come to believe it!

  • Wynn Godbold November 8, 2010

    wow Glad, I love the vulture/hummingbird story.
    I am going to use that with my own children- and anyone else who gives me the opportunity to share;)

  • Joanne November 8, 2010

    What a great post Wynn! I am a big believer that we get what we focus on the most and your story with the tyre is a great reminder that if we seek it, it will show up in our reality.

    A couple of weeks ago, we had a big leak in our kitchen from the flat upstairs and it got me down quite a bit until I decided to turn my thoughts around. Now I think that I am excited to have a new floor, ceiling and decorated room and am even thinking about buying some new things to create a beautiful space – totally different mindset and it feels great.

    Thank you for reminding me that I can create my life with my thoughts – I am choosing good ones today xxx

  • Olga November 13, 2010

    Wynn, thank you for sharing the story and the sunny pictures! A good reminder to me that our words are so powerful! And you know what I am going to go ahead and try something: I commit to stop talking about my headaches! I've heard about people completely getting rid of their headaches after they stopped mentioning them. 🙂

  • SUNRISE SISTER November 27, 2010

    Hi Wynn,
    Happy Thanksgiving weekend to you. After being away from blogsites for over a month now, I'm "tiptoeing" back in to favorite sites.

    This is a great post regarding the words we speak and how just a little shift can do so much for us:)

    xo

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