I’m asking YOU. Can you do it?
Can you give yourself permission to:
- step away from a messy house?
- take time for you to rejuvenate?
- be angry with someone you love?
- take a nap?
- say no to a worthy request?
- ask for help?
- make your needs known?
In my travels across the country I meet more and more teachers; wonderful people, I assure you. But more often than not, I find these same wonderful folks are unable to give themselves permission to take care of themselves. There’s just something about women- women teachers in particular- that makes it hard for them to give themselves permission to do the things listed above and any number of other things in the area of taking care of themselves.
Why is that?
These wonderful women teachers take care of everyone and sacrifice themselves to do it. When they do take time for themselves, they feel guilty.
Do you fit in with these women? Do you want to change this?
Journal out the answers to these questions in your 15 minutes. Write it out.
- What do I think will happen if I step back from this responsibility?
- What will really happen?
- How are my thoughts different from reality?
- What are the benefits of me stepping back?
- What are the negatives?
- How can I resolve these two opposing factors?
Take time to answer these questions fully and honestly; even if it hurts. Remember you are going to grow a beautiful flower of a delightful life taking care of you and everyone else, but from a place of freedom rather than overwhelm. Just like a beautiful flower, when you first begin to grow you will push a little bit of dirt up and out of the way before you can sprout. It’s only dirt. Things may get a little messy in your thoughts/feelings, but after that you’ll see how the dirt falls to the side and actually creates a more stable foundation for your flowering life.